I used to hold a lot of assumptions and expectations about life.
Like the assumption that if only A, B and C were in place, then I would be happy. A, B and C could be any everchanging combination of financial security, career progression, a stable and loving relationship, travel adventures and a balance of time for me, family and friends.
Like the expectation that when I married the love of my life it could never be difficult because the first 3 years were so damn easy. We wouldn’t be “that” couple who faded and fought and struggled through the illness and death of parents and the sleep deprived days of early parenthood.
Ahh, and parenthood. MY children would be following MY plan and would fit perfectly into MY well-balanced life of career, fitness, social life and restful sleep in my tidy and clean home.
Well, after the Universe finished rolling on the floor laughing out loud, it threw a bunch of challenges along my path to help me learn to become humbler and wiser.
I learned to disassociate with the illusion of perfectionism and instead accept that trying my best was good enough, that being authentically me with all of my imperfections is more than enough.
I learned to let expectations and assumptions fall away and instead trust the path as it unfolds, letting go of the need to control outcomes and accepting the messiness of this human experience.
I learned to feel strength in my vulnerability and become comfortable with sharing my stories in the hope that they inspire someone else who is somewhere along a similar path.
You are not alone. We are all learning how to let go of everything we think we know in order to enjoy the freedom of a beginner’s mind.
Michelle Borner, a mom on 23 missions, blogs about her Deep Thoughts on a wide range of topics from parenting to conscious living to lessons from brain cancer.
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